August 13th

Question Of The Day

 3. You can't control what other people think of you. Comment.

I agree, but not entirely. I can't really control what other people think of me, but I can influence it. For example, I have an acquaintance that hasn't got big respect among the people. Once, after breaking up with her boyfriend, she started to frequently go out with boys. But that was not the problem. The problem was that while she was romantically involved with one, she was also with another. And to worsen her situation, she "changed" them monthly. She dated one, two boys for a month, and broke up with them and involved again with other ones for another month. She did that for more than half a year. Soon, people around her started to turn their faces away when she was near. Even people that didn't know her heard about these "rumors" and avoided talking to her.

But what if she didn't do that? What if she didn't start that scandal? What if after breaking up, she stayed quiet and tried to overcome it with another method? Probably, and almost certainly, she wouldn't be where she is now. She wouldn't have lost her respect from the people. She wouldn't have to hear all those whispers around her. 

I think that people's minds is not something easy, because I can't also control what I think of myself. But if we avoid doing things that we know we're going to regret, then things are not going to get as bad as her situation.